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Monday, December 19, 2011
Friday, November 11, 2011
Sisa
So an e-mail came around stating that an exchange student needed a place to stay in a hurry, and I figured, what the hell. No, there was more to it than that but within the past two weeks we've gone from a 3 kid, 3 dog, 2 cat, 2 bird household to a 4 kid, dog/cat/bird household. Sisa, from Slovakia, has joined us! More on that later.
Everyone keeps asking if we're crazy. What if she steals, smokes, does drugs, strangles us in the night? So far she couldn't be easier or more friendly. I'm becoming downright protective, hence this note today to her dean. More later....
Dear Mr. O.,
Can you let me know Sisa's latest grades? I think she may have failed a class and I'd like to know about it, unless there is some rule forbidding host families from getting that personal with their kids.
Sisa is doing very well in our home, and I am optimistic about giving her a positive US experience. However, I am concerned that I didn't hear from even one teacher when I sent them the e-mail introducing myself and telling them I'm Sisa's host mother. Not any sort of verbal comment saying they'd be in touch with me, or they care about exchange student experiences--nothing.
This, along with a recent situation I won't share as it has hopefully been resolved....makes me uncomfortable regarding some teachers' views of exchange students and how they should be treated. Is there any possible way you can communicate to the teachers that this particular exchange student is extremely committed to improving her life and her future through the exchange experience? She is shy and may not convey this outwardly, but it is definitely the case. She was kept from classes for an entire week NOT because she didn't want to go, but because her host mother was not up to the task of keeping her and she was stuck in Cypress with the exchange agency rep, away from the school.
Being the mother of a mentally impaired, autistic child (Mackenzie) I am acutely aware that teachers are very busy and cannot always give extra time to all the kids who are different. I respect every single teacher I meet because they've devoted their lives to our kids. On the other hand, in the case of an exchange student who is intelligent and willing to learn, and is a world away from family and friends, just a bit of additional explanation, consideration, follow-up and similar, minor tasks--communicated in a respectful and considerate manner--would surely impact that person's life.
Please confirm that you have received this note, and you will communicate with your teachers. Thank you!
Best regards,
MaryJane
Everyone keeps asking if we're crazy. What if she steals, smokes, does drugs, strangles us in the night? So far she couldn't be easier or more friendly. I'm becoming downright protective, hence this note today to her dean. More later....
Dear Mr. O.,
Can you let me know Sisa's latest grades? I think she may have failed a class and I'd like to know about it, unless there is some rule forbidding host families from getting that personal with their kids.
Sisa is doing very well in our home, and I am optimistic about giving her a positive US experience. However, I am concerned that I didn't hear from even one teacher when I sent them the e-mail introducing myself and telling them I'm Sisa's host mother. Not any sort of verbal comment saying they'd be in touch with me, or they care about exchange student experiences--nothing.
This, along with a recent situation I won't share as it has hopefully been resolved....makes me uncomfortable regarding some teachers' views of exchange students and how they should be treated. Is there any possible way you can communicate to the teachers that this particular exchange student is extremely committed to improving her life and her future through the exchange experience? She is shy and may not convey this outwardly, but it is definitely the case. She was kept from classes for an entire week NOT because she didn't want to go, but because her host mother was not up to the task of keeping her and she was stuck in Cypress with the exchange agency rep, away from the school.
Being the mother of a mentally impaired, autistic child (Mackenzie) I am acutely aware that teachers are very busy and cannot always give extra time to all the kids who are different. I respect every single teacher I meet because they've devoted their lives to our kids. On the other hand, in the case of an exchange student who is intelligent and willing to learn, and is a world away from family and friends, just a bit of additional explanation, consideration, follow-up and similar, minor tasks--communicated in a respectful and considerate manner--would surely impact that person's life.
Please confirm that you have received this note, and you will communicate with your teachers. Thank you!
Best regards,
MaryJane
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Muddy Facebook Status Messages
Bless me, Muddy Life Blog post, for I have sinned. It has been five months since I penned anything about my Muddy Life, so these are my, uh, FB status messages. Catholic confessional prayer if you don't get it. Also don't care if anyone reads this, other than my kids, when I'm six feet under. One thing is for sure. I write a helluva lot of FB posts!
At least I amuse myself. Here goes:
After spending all night awake on a ship with 50 Girl Scouts, I'm wondering if some day I'm going to evolve into one of those old people who doesn't like kids.
May 7, 2011 at 7:39 pm
Happy Mother's Day, Mom. I love you to Heaven and back.
May 8, 2011
Praying for Amy Morby, a sweet young lady who has Down Syndrome. Her mom, Pam, has been my mentor on the special needs mom road for more than 17 years. Amy has pneumonia and is in critical but stable condition; on a ventilator. Please send a prayer and good thoughts their way if you can...Thanks. (A photo of Amy and Pam is below.)
May 9, 2011 at 6:35 pm
Why do I keep getting Twitter messages from the Dalai Lama?
May 11, 2011 at 10:36 pm
Hard on a mom's heart: K told me about the cliquey "mean girls" in her class and I told her there will always be "mean girls," to have confidence and remember she's awesome. This, or I'll find those kids and cut off their pony tails.
May 13, 2011
Our Houston Tuberous Sclerosis Alliance Walkathon raised $70,000!!! Big, fat, slobbery smooches to all our friends and family who supported Mackenzie and others like her by donating to our cause. Love and hugs also to Betsy Trevino and Channel 11's Ron Trevino for making it out yesterday morning. We love you guys!
May 15, 2011
All I can say is Arnold Schwarzenegger is lucky he's not married to ME.
May 17, 2011
Sitting on a non-air conditioned school bus with 40 wild 5th graders, and I have to pee.
May 19, 2011
Watching Mama Mia with the girls and getting choked up over the song "Slipping Through My Fingers." Sentimental dork...but it WOULD be great to know how to make time stand still, wouldn't it?
May 21, 2011
30 minutes left until the end of the world! Drowning my sorrows in cupcakes and beer. You got a problem with that?
May 22, 2011
Why do some people in $100,000 sports cars insist on going 45 mph on the freeway?!!! One of these days I'll start bumping their rears with my lesser priced vehicle and scream "MOVE IT!" with a megaphone out my window. Just dare me...
May 24, 2011
Watching American Idol...in seventh heaven with Beyonce, Carrie Underwood AND YES, Lady Gaga, performing all in one night. Weeeee!
May 26, 2011
Wept like a kindergartener today while giving gifts to the staff at Barbara Bush Elementary. After next week, the classroom will close on 15 years of our daughters learning, playing and becoming young ladies there. Oh, how it sucks to be sentimental.
May 27, 2011
Thinking, with humble gratitude, of the men and women throughout history who sacrificed their lives for the sake of freedom.
May 30, 2011
Second try at US Post Office, attempting to apply for our daughters' passports in preparation of summer trip. Employee just glanced at the girls and me, and walked away. Oy vey, our government at work.
May 31, 2011
Can't wait to join Rachel Parker, Karin Knapp, Tracy Torma, Denise Allen Zwicker, Karen McCullough, Joan Conway Buck and 30 other cool chicks tonight for the Ladies Night Out event of the month: "Rock of Ages," at the Hobby Center For the Performing Arts! The '80s live on!
June 1, 2011
When she didn't return home on time, we looked up and down the street and by the lake for Karenna. Hearts pounding until Juliette declared, "Hey Mom, I found her. She's sleeping on top of a pile of clothes on her bed." For the love of God!
June 3, 2011
Juliette's pool party/sleepover last night (40 teens) and Karenna's pool party/sleepover tonight (25 pre-teens) in celebration of the end of school year. Weeee! (I'll probably be reduced to thumb-sucking by the end of the weekend.)
June 4, 2011
2 large cans of generic shaving cream left over from the shaving cream fight at last night's end-of-school-year party. Any takers?
June 5, 2011
Praying for a dear friend who was just diagnosed with ovarian cancer...and again counting my blessings.
June 9, 2011
June 9: Posted Things Aren't Always What They Seem
"Hey Mama! Remember when I told you that Dr Tabakman at West Houston Orthodontics plans to take my braces off during mid-July, while we're in Paris? You said that you would ask him if it's at all possible for him to take them off before we leave. This is just a friendly reminder to make sure you don't forget! Because I want these things OFF. Thanks!! Juliette" (sent via text)
June 11, 2011
June 12, 2011: Posted article on Arizona Congresswoman and shooting victim Gabby Giffords. "Go Gabby, Go!"
Mother/daughter day and night with Mackenzie. Per her request: "Rio" movie at Katy Mills, Rainforest Cafe for a bite, a little shopping, two rounds of bowling (I'll need the bumper lanes...for ME!), then check in at a nearby hotel for snacks, snuggling and an in-room flick. See you tomorrow!
June 12, 2011
Okay, friends: What are the best documentaries or movies to educate an 11 and 14 year old on the history/sites of Paris and Normandy? It's important to us, especially regarding Normandy, that our girls understand the history before we visit in July. If movies, nothing too off color (sexy) or horrific (i.e., Saving Private Ryan). They're still a bit young... Any ideas?
June 14, 2011
My prayers are with my dear friend, Ann Cuneio Earnest, one of the strongest, most courageous and faith-filled people I know, who undergoes ovarian cancer surgery at 2 p.m. today. Please join me if you can.
June 15, 2011
Muddy mania: One lone [huge, fast, slimy] tree roach got into the house at 11 last night and five teens screamed like the apocalypse was upon us. Special thanks to Amy Lapp Dukes husband John, who was nearby and thus hauled into the house by said teens to kill the roach--he moved furniture to go after the vile thing...but alas, it got away. Wearing ear plugs today.
June 17, 2011
100 degrees outside; 107 with humidity index. With turning another year older tomorrow, I can't figure out from minute to minute if I'm having a hot flash or if it's just hot!
June 18, 2011
(Father's Day and Birthday) Missing my father, who held newborn me in his arms 51 years ago today. Love you to Heaven and back, Dad! June 19, 2011
Can you believe our pooch Rochelle (aka canine Olympic swimmer) sat on my lap like this for over an hour today? (Photo not included here!) Guess she wanted to be sure I was having a happy b-day...unless she was gunning for a sip of that beer. Woof! June 20, 2011
Overwhelmed by the wonderful birthday wishes. Thank you so much, my dear family and friends! :)
June 20, 2011
1,380 e-mails. I guess I'm behind a bit. June 21, 2011
Why so much TV coverage of the Casey Anthony murder trial? Annoying!
June 22, 2011
Excited for date night tonight with my honey. Where should we go?
June 24, 2011 (He surprised me with Jerry Seinfeld tickets and we belly-laughed for 90 minutes straight!)
My honey. After 20 years, still the hottest date in town. :)
June 25, 2011 (Imagine cute blonde guy photo here)
West Briar moms know how to have fun! (Brio at City Centre)
July 2, 2011
FAMILY TRIP TO PARIS, NORMANDY, BRUSSELS...close your eyes and imagine Muddy mania at all these awesome places:
Mudd clan at the Seine. Where's Chris?
July 11, 2011
L'amour at the Tuileries Gardens.
July 11, 2011
At the top of the Arc de Triomphe!
July 11, 2011
At the foot of the Eiffel Tower...
July 11, 2011
Let them eat cake! (Guess where?)
July 13, 2011
The reason the French don't like American tourists.
July 13, 2011
Spectacular: The display of fireworks over Paris in celebration of Bastille Day. Odd: They used the song "New York, New York" for the firework finale. Vive le Big Apple!
July 14, 2011
MaryJane checked in at Normandy American Cemetery.
"These endured all and gave all, that justice among nations might prevail and that mankind might enjoy freedom and inherit peace." --Quote on Cemetery Chapel.
July 14, 2011
Back to Paris after two days in Normandy, visiting all of the D-Day beaches. Incredibly humbling. Even went into underground bunkers used by German soldiers...the enormity of it all is amazing.
July 15, 2011
Chris and Jeff flew home but us Mudd girls are continuing our European vacation in Nieuwpoort, Belgium, compliments of our wonderful neighbors Inge Huyghebaert and Robert Vermeer. Dutch hospitality in a lovely seaside home--we're loving it!
July 17, 2011
My idea of Heaven: Belgian sugar waffles from Liege, on our last day in beautiful Belgium.
July 19, 2011
There's no place like home.....even if the entire kitchen and den have been ripped apart by contractors, we don't have a washer or dryer, and face masks are needed for the dust--it's still home! :)
July 20, 2011
Facing down the 3-mile track at Memorial Park--day one of trying to undo damage caused by French and Belgium bread, cheese and wine. Oy!
July 21, 2011
Today's e-mail spam spectacular starts with: "Hello My Dear. Though this letter may come to you as a surprise, since you don’t know me personally before, but please kindly open your mind to help me and treat me like your own blood relation." Uh, sure. DELETE! July 22, 2011
Mudd gang is heading out to Brenda Anglin Moore 's Tiki Island home for a fun 'n sun weekend with her family and Sheryl Reynaud 's. Weeee!
July 23, 2011
Mine. (Photo of my big, bodacious diamond ring. Got 27 "likes" and about 30 comments. I guess I'm not the only materialistic person around.)
July 25, 2011
Praying for dear friend Ann Cuneio Earnest, who is anxious about starting chemotherapy today to beat ovarian cancer. Asking if praying friends might join me.
July 25, 2011
Thank God for nice nurses with lollipops. (Photo of Mackenzie with bandaids on face, sucking a lollipop. TSC sucks.)
July 26, 2011
Pretty stressful morning. Is it bad that I'm looking forward to the nitrous oxide I'll be getting at the dentist's office this afternoon?
July 26, 2011
Photo just sent via text from K Mudd, who has found a paying gig "dog sitting" the neighbor's pooch. (Translation: Neighbor is being nice and allowing K to watch her dog for a few bucks, per K's earnest, multiple requests.) So now our house is overrun by contractors, kids, friends of kids, a sitter, three of our own canines, two cats, a bird--and now, Shadow the dog. It's for the best that I'm downtown right now.
July 27, 2011
Just finished book club pick "Hotel On the Corner of Bitter and Sweet," by Jamie Ford; historical fiction about the internment of American Japanese citizens during WWII. So-so writing, but a great story.
July 28, 2011
Natural Science Museum with Juliette's HS Engineering group today; Katy Perry concert with Karenna and friends tonight. One extreme to the other!
July 29, 2011
California Gurls!!! Katy has us dancing!!! Fantabulous concert!
July 30, 2011
I'm ready to work out now!
July 31 (Photo of cutie-pie pooch Rochelle on mini trampoline)
Signed up for women's boot camp fitness training; first class is tomorrow at 5:30 a.m. That should give me enough time to digest the Mexican food and margaritas I just consumed.
August 1, 2011
Working out at Memorial Park and just saw a group of people run by carrying a wooden plank as part of their exercise routine. Weirdos.
August 3, 2011
Decisions, decisions.
August 5, 2011
Embarking upon week three of co-existing in the dining and living rooms while contractors work on the kitchen and den. Mudds on top of Mudds--it's not pretty.
August 7, 2011
Came face to face with a rabbit after "scaling" over (more like falling over) a wall in pitch blackness during today's 5:30 a.m. boot camp. We both looked at each other like, "Don't you have something better to do right now?" Indeed.
August 8, 2011
Reminded recently that mean girls exist at EVERY stage of life. Time to ramp up the self respect and do some house cleaning.
August 11, 2011
"Mr. Smith Goes To Washington" is playing on TCM. Love Jimmy Stewart! I wonder what idealist Jefferson Smith would say about our political climate today...
August 13, 2011
My baby sounds like an angel, thanks to wonderful voice coach @Annette Pappas, and God. (Video clip of Karenna singing.)
August 15, 2011
I'm reposting this [A Silent Love] in honor of our Mackenzie Joy, who turns 19 today. If someone had told me all those years ago that our child would have special needs, I'd have gone running. Now, I can fully understand what a privilege it is (and, dare I say, never dull or boring), to be her mom. Happy birthday, sweetheart! (This one got 64 "likes." So glad I could touch people with Mackenzie's story!)
August 16, 2011
Have decided to remove myself from the interview process of a major downtown firm where I was the primary candidate. Agonizing decision for a career lover like me, but consulting is the best thing for this season of my life. Onward and upward! (Anyone need a good PR/Marketing consultant?) :)
August 18, 2011
I cleared my calendar tomorrow to be there for the kids on their first day of school; I was especially excited about taking Juliette to her first day of high school. Well, she just declared that she will be driven to school tomorrow a.m. by her best friend's mother because she wants to be with her friends. A sobering reminder that I have now entered the thankless dimension of life otherwise known as "raising a teenager."
August 22, 2011
Thanks to AMA Houston members Nicole Tarner (graphic designer and marketer extraordinaire) and Kerry Fellers (data compiler and project manager extraordinaire), as well as some other wonderful AMA Houston folks, we are nearing the final stretch of a big, huge, beast of a marketing association project. Hang in there, ladies--champagne will be uncorked soon!
August 24, 2011
Rain, glorious rain! (After a summer of drought)
August 25, 2011
I was a little embarrassed last night when I posted birthday greetings on the FB page of Tracye Ford Sellers, a dear friend lost to cancer in 2009. But upon checking her page today, I see I have been joined by scores of others. Such was the character, joyful spirit and courage of one woman; someone I hope I can emulate in my own life. Miss you, friend.
August 25, 2011
I am LOVING our new red leather family room furniture. Red is my color, baby, red is my color!
August 27, 2011
H-Town is 175 years old today! Happy birthday to the city I moved to in 1988 for a "one year" career assignment--before meeting my husband, getting married, and having our girls here. Yeeehaw! (But really...the 109 degree temps and fire ants. What's up with that?)
August 28, 2011
Standing on my high heels at Apple's Genius Bar for what seems like an eternity. Must remind K tonight that she CANNOT cannon ball into the backyard pool with her phone in her pocket!
August 29, 2011
Nancy Grace on Dancing With the Stars. I guess crazier things have happened.
August 30, 2011
New, black business dress: Check. Pearls: Check. Red heels: Check. Red leather purse: Check. Unlock and get into car parked outside due to house renovations: Check. Arrive at business lunch soaked with sweat staining front and back of dress, flat hair and melting makeup, compliments of Houston's 114 degree heat: Oh so classy.
August 31, 2011
Husband asked me numerous times to post a photo of our 13 year old gas cooktop on my FB page to see if anyone wanted it, but I gave it away instead. Gimme a break, I'm NOT eBay! (Although I'm eyeballing a few unused lipsticks that could go to the highest bidder...hmm.)
September 2, 2011
Houston friends: Houston Family Magazine has just published Mackenzie's article, "A Silent Love." Weee! Please, if you see any copies around town, pick one up for me. I don't have any yet. Thanks!
September 3, 2011
Per Mackenzie's request, we bought a second parakeet, named Rio, to give her other parakeet, Nicky, a friend. So far, Rio and Nicky are pecking the living daylights out of each other. Meanwhile, Rochelle the dog is barking at the fake ceramic cat we placed near the bird cage while Sasha, the REAL cat, looks on. A maniacal Muddy zoo.
September 7, 2011
Praying for those in Texas affected by the wildfires, as well as the firefighters and other emergency responders who are protecting them.
September 8, 2011
Mackenzie clipped her own fingernails today-- the first time in her 19 years of life. Bravo, Mackenzie!
September 10, 2011
Clip: "First responders are not invited to the 9/11 National Memorial for the upcoming 10th anniversary ceremony, in what many people are calling a slap in the face to those who risked their lives to save others from the World Trade Center and the Pentagon."
September 10, 2011
Juliette is showing her Westside High PRIDE! (Cutest photo...)
September 10, 2011
Still heartbroken, 10 years later.
September 11, 2011
Who gets to say they're going to lunch today with the person who changed their life? I do! Can't wait to see Dr. Hope Northrup, tuberous sclerosis complex expert and internationally renowned geneticist, joined by Jackie Callies of the Memorial Hermann Foundation. Puts a smile on my face just thinking about it. :)
September 13, 2011
Running from classroom to classroom at high school "day in the life" open house. Weee!
(Westside High School)
September 15, 2011
Big, fat, weepy hugs to two of the most incredible people I know: Sheryl Reynaud and Brenda Anglin Moore, who led Troop 12025 with limitless dedication for over a decade. Although the group must come to an end due to busy schedules, rest assured you have greatly impacted the lives of Juliette Mudd, Michelle Moore, Danielle Reynaud and so many others. We love you!
September 15, 2011
76 degrees in Houston this morning. Heavenly! Now if we could just get some rain...
September 16, 2011
Date night! About to see "Contagion"...oh so romantic.
(Studio Movie Grill CityCentre)
September 18, 2011
"I learned this by watching 'Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs' " - said Juliette, while using a fork earlier today to make pretty marks around her apple pie. Hmmph! I bet that Disney chick wouldn't throw pool parties for 50 teens, dance on tables at Halloween parties or wear blue wigs to Katy Perry concerts. Take THAT, you pale-faced, over-rouged doofus of a cartoon character...and your seven weird little male friends, too.
September 19, 2011
My beloved SUV with 90,000 miles has to undergo an expensive nip and tuck today. First the Volvo....then me! (Or will a little extra wax do...for us both?!)
September 21, 2011
I married the love of my life, Chris Mudd, 21 years ago today. Happy Anniversary, hon!
September 22, 2011 (54 "likes." Deserved!)
Just snuggled into bed at Camp Cho-Yeh hotel room, bone tired after all day Leadership Houston business retreat, and the smoke alarm has just started beeping because it needs a battery change. Pillow over my head! (No phones in these rooms, or front desk people. Argh!)
September 24, 2011
Facebook apparently believes the only person I want to receive news updates from is Lady GaGa. Yes, I did "like" her FB page, but there's only so much GaGa a person can take. Fortunately, FB has selected Chris, too. So there you have it: My husband and Lady GaGa. All the news that's fit to print!
September 25, 2011
While dragging myself along the 3-mile track in nearly 90 degree heat, an elderly Indian lady jogged right by me, wearing a pretti sari (sp?) and carrying a sun umbrella. Call me inspired!
(Memorial Park)
September 26,
Just watched the finale of The Big C while packing for the airport. What an inspiring, funny, incredibly moving show. Love that Laura Linney!
September 27, 2011
Overlooking Lake Monono after a great day at client site. (Sardine, in Madison, WI)
September 29, 2011
Walked in the door from a business trip a few minutes ago, excited to see the kids since they have the day off. No one looked up, and Juliette isn't even here. On the other hand, the dogs jumped all over me, the cats came out from their hiding places and rubbed against my legs, and even the parakeets started chirping. This may be why I've turned into the crazy pet lady--unconditional love!
September 29, 2011
Honey just left for Europe--again. :(
September 30, 2011
I cannot stop thinking about the passing of Esther Hobbs. Please pray for her family, especially her mentally challenged adult sister, Darla, to whom she devoted her life.
(Link to article:Esther Hobbs, a well-known Houston public relations executive and founder of a school for handicapped children, was found dead on Thursday.)
October 1, 2011
On a more upbeat note than my previous post, KUDOS, HUGS AND BIGGER HUGS to the thousands of people who walked Houston's Komen Houston Race for the Cure® this morning. May we find a cure for breast cancer in our lifetime!
October 1, 2011
Juliette and little sis Karenna at the "Dance with Pride" game (photo exhibiting supreme cuteness)
October 2, 2011
Saturday night baking: Halloween cupcakes -- boo!
October 2, 2011
No work, too much work. No work, too much work. The life of a consultant!
October 4, 2011
The tuberous sclerosis community lost a true hero today. You will always hold a place in our hearts, Dr. Mausner.
(Link to post: Dr. Mark Mausner, a reknowned plastic surgeon who worked with hundreds of people with TSC from around the world, passed away the morning of Tuesday, October 4, 2011. As one former TS Alliance board chair wrote, "Dr. Mausner was an amazing man who opened his heart to so many people.")
October 4, 2011
Heading off to book club dinner. For discussion tonight: "Sunflowers," about Vincent van Gogh. Spoiler alert: He cuts off his ear! (Sorry, I couldn't help myself.)
October 6, 2011
Although this is not a surprise, it is surely a loss. One of the greatest inventors in history.
(Link to post: Steve Jobs Died 'Peacefully,' Family Says The family of former Apple chief executive Steve Jobs said that he died "peacefully" on Wednesday, surrounded by his family. A memorial Web site will be posted.)
October 6, 2011
iSad.
October 6, 2011
A worried, stressed out man with sweat trickling down his forehead just ran up to our security line and begged to go to the front since his flight leaves in 20 minutes. I said "Sure," and then the guy in front of me bit my head off and yelled to the sweaty man "We're ALL LATE!!" Speak for yourself, oh tightly wound one. It's amazing we don't have daily uprisings at airports.
October 7, 2011
"Do we have to? Why don't you just look at it on your iPad and be done with it?" --Husband's response when I said I wanted to head out to see the St. Louis Arch. (He wants to stay at the hotel and watch the Texas game.)
October 8, 2011
Had to deplane itty-bitty aircraft in torrential rain. Positioned now-soaked torso over carry-on bag holding MacBook Pro, iPhone and iPad, not caring if I had to fall down itty-bitty stairs in the process. Husband rolled his eyes, but alas, he's a PC/Blackberry user.
October 9, 2011
Curses! It's NOT "Me and Susie," it's "Susie and me," or "Susie and I," depending upon the situation. And it's not "I'm going to not do that," it's "I'm not going to do that!" I correct the kids, but everyone seems to be speaking this way these days. Sister Mary Joseph, my elementary school English teacher, is probably rolling in her grave.
October 10, 2011
Going to three Halloween parties this year, and I haven't given a second of thought to my costume. Any ideas?
October 11, 2011 (Decision: Social Butterfly!)
Just got back from the airport, and the house is crawling with teens (early dismissal today) playing loud music of unknown origin while I'm writing a PR proposal. Muddy mania once again!
October 12, 2011
Juliette and friends LOVE early dismissal day!
October 12, 2011
I personally blame Angela Scott Sheets and Barbara Beeman Cobb for making me lose sleep last night! If they had not recommended the riveting, thought-provoking, incredibly moving page-turner "Sarah's Key," I could have been nestled in my bed nice and early. But alas, I couldn't stop reading until the book was finished--1 a.m.-- and then laid there, staring at the ceiling, until who knows when. I'll get you for this, ladies!
October 13, 2011
Mackenzie was begging to carve pumpkins, so Chris Mudd, otherwise known as cool dad, just put her in his car and off they went to Kroger to buy a few. They'll be carving well into the night. Yes, I'm married to good guy.
October 14, 2011
Chaperone at 6th Grade Dance. I got to hold the limbo stick!
(Westbriar middle school)
October 15, 2011
"Why don't you stand there and pretend to be a big mango?" says husband, as I wander through the kitchen attempting to catch fruit flies with a baggie. (Must do this for exterminator to determine origin of annoying, buzzing insects, and then trace the source. Mackenzie has taken to dining in the back yard, to get away from indoor flies. Oh, the irony!)
October 15, 2011
Getting pedicures with Mackenzie. Me, dark red. Mackenzie, Sponge Bob yellow.
(Tulipo Nails and Spa)
October 15, 2011
How cool is it that Sandie Mullins-Meyers and Charlie Moger met and fell in love after tremendous personal hardship? How much cooler is it that they're getting married today and combining their big crew to form the Moger Bunch?! Blessings, friends. We're thrilled for you!
October 16, 2011
And there you have it. The end.
For now...
At least I amuse myself. Here goes:
After spending all night awake on a ship with 50 Girl Scouts, I'm wondering if some day I'm going to evolve into one of those old people who doesn't like kids.
May 7, 2011 at 7:39 pm
Happy Mother's Day, Mom. I love you to Heaven and back.
May 8, 2011
Praying for Amy Morby, a sweet young lady who has Down Syndrome. Her mom, Pam, has been my mentor on the special needs mom road for more than 17 years. Amy has pneumonia and is in critical but stable condition; on a ventilator. Please send a prayer and good thoughts their way if you can...Thanks. (A photo of Amy and Pam is below.)
May 9, 2011 at 6:35 pm
Why do I keep getting Twitter messages from the Dalai Lama?
May 11, 2011 at 10:36 pm
Hard on a mom's heart: K told me about the cliquey "mean girls" in her class and I told her there will always be "mean girls," to have confidence and remember she's awesome. This, or I'll find those kids and cut off their pony tails.
May 13, 2011
Our Houston Tuberous Sclerosis Alliance Walkathon raised $70,000!!! Big, fat, slobbery smooches to all our friends and family who supported Mackenzie and others like her by donating to our cause. Love and hugs also to Betsy Trevino and Channel 11's Ron Trevino for making it out yesterday morning. We love you guys!
May 15, 2011
All I can say is Arnold Schwarzenegger is lucky he's not married to ME.
May 17, 2011
Sitting on a non-air conditioned school bus with 40 wild 5th graders, and I have to pee.
May 19, 2011
Watching Mama Mia with the girls and getting choked up over the song "Slipping Through My Fingers." Sentimental dork...but it WOULD be great to know how to make time stand still, wouldn't it?
May 21, 2011
30 minutes left until the end of the world! Drowning my sorrows in cupcakes and beer. You got a problem with that?
May 22, 2011
Why do some people in $100,000 sports cars insist on going 45 mph on the freeway?!!! One of these days I'll start bumping their rears with my lesser priced vehicle and scream "MOVE IT!" with a megaphone out my window. Just dare me...
May 24, 2011
Watching American Idol...in seventh heaven with Beyonce, Carrie Underwood AND YES, Lady Gaga, performing all in one night. Weeeee!
May 26, 2011
Wept like a kindergartener today while giving gifts to the staff at Barbara Bush Elementary. After next week, the classroom will close on 15 years of our daughters learning, playing and becoming young ladies there. Oh, how it sucks to be sentimental.
May 27, 2011
Thinking, with humble gratitude, of the men and women throughout history who sacrificed their lives for the sake of freedom.
May 30, 2011
Second try at US Post Office, attempting to apply for our daughters' passports in preparation of summer trip. Employee just glanced at the girls and me, and walked away. Oy vey, our government at work.
May 31, 2011
Can't wait to join Rachel Parker, Karin Knapp, Tracy Torma, Denise Allen Zwicker, Karen McCullough, Joan Conway Buck and 30 other cool chicks tonight for the Ladies Night Out event of the month: "Rock of Ages," at the Hobby Center For the Performing Arts! The '80s live on!
June 1, 2011
When she didn't return home on time, we looked up and down the street and by the lake for Karenna. Hearts pounding until Juliette declared, "Hey Mom, I found her. She's sleeping on top of a pile of clothes on her bed." For the love of God!
June 3, 2011
Juliette's pool party/sleepover last night (40 teens) and Karenna's pool party/sleepover tonight (25 pre-teens) in celebration of the end of school year. Weeee! (I'll probably be reduced to thumb-sucking by the end of the weekend.)
June 4, 2011
2 large cans of generic shaving cream left over from the shaving cream fight at last night's end-of-school-year party. Any takers?
June 5, 2011
Praying for a dear friend who was just diagnosed with ovarian cancer...and again counting my blessings.
June 9, 2011
June 9: Posted Things Aren't Always What They Seem
"Hey Mama! Remember when I told you that Dr Tabakman at West Houston Orthodontics plans to take my braces off during mid-July, while we're in Paris? You said that you would ask him if it's at all possible for him to take them off before we leave. This is just a friendly reminder to make sure you don't forget! Because I want these things OFF. Thanks!! Juliette" (sent via text)
June 11, 2011
June 12, 2011: Posted article on Arizona Congresswoman and shooting victim Gabby Giffords. "Go Gabby, Go!"
Mother/daughter day and night with Mackenzie. Per her request: "Rio" movie at Katy Mills, Rainforest Cafe for a bite, a little shopping, two rounds of bowling (I'll need the bumper lanes...for ME!), then check in at a nearby hotel for snacks, snuggling and an in-room flick. See you tomorrow!
June 12, 2011
Okay, friends: What are the best documentaries or movies to educate an 11 and 14 year old on the history/sites of Paris and Normandy? It's important to us, especially regarding Normandy, that our girls understand the history before we visit in July. If movies, nothing too off color (sexy) or horrific (i.e., Saving Private Ryan). They're still a bit young... Any ideas?
June 14, 2011
My prayers are with my dear friend, Ann Cuneio Earnest, one of the strongest, most courageous and faith-filled people I know, who undergoes ovarian cancer surgery at 2 p.m. today. Please join me if you can.
June 15, 2011
Muddy mania: One lone [huge, fast, slimy] tree roach got into the house at 11 last night and five teens screamed like the apocalypse was upon us. Special thanks to Amy Lapp Dukes husband John, who was nearby and thus hauled into the house by said teens to kill the roach--he moved furniture to go after the vile thing...but alas, it got away. Wearing ear plugs today.
June 17, 2011
100 degrees outside; 107 with humidity index. With turning another year older tomorrow, I can't figure out from minute to minute if I'm having a hot flash or if it's just hot!
June 18, 2011
(Father's Day and Birthday) Missing my father, who held newborn me in his arms 51 years ago today. Love you to Heaven and back, Dad! June 19, 2011
Can you believe our pooch Rochelle (aka canine Olympic swimmer) sat on my lap like this for over an hour today? (Photo not included here!) Guess she wanted to be sure I was having a happy b-day...unless she was gunning for a sip of that beer. Woof! June 20, 2011
Overwhelmed by the wonderful birthday wishes. Thank you so much, my dear family and friends! :)
June 20, 2011
1,380 e-mails. I guess I'm behind a bit. June 21, 2011
Why so much TV coverage of the Casey Anthony murder trial? Annoying!
June 22, 2011
Excited for date night tonight with my honey. Where should we go?
June 24, 2011 (He surprised me with Jerry Seinfeld tickets and we belly-laughed for 90 minutes straight!)
My honey. After 20 years, still the hottest date in town. :)
June 25, 2011 (Imagine cute blonde guy photo here)
West Briar moms know how to have fun! (Brio at City Centre)
July 2, 2011
FAMILY TRIP TO PARIS, NORMANDY, BRUSSELS...close your eyes and imagine Muddy mania at all these awesome places:
Mudd clan at the Seine. Where's Chris?
July 11, 2011
L'amour at the Tuileries Gardens.
July 11, 2011
At the top of the Arc de Triomphe!
July 11, 2011
At the foot of the Eiffel Tower...
July 11, 2011
Let them eat cake! (Guess where?)
July 13, 2011
The reason the French don't like American tourists.
July 13, 2011
Spectacular: The display of fireworks over Paris in celebration of Bastille Day. Odd: They used the song "New York, New York" for the firework finale. Vive le Big Apple!
July 14, 2011
MaryJane checked in at Normandy American Cemetery.
"These endured all and gave all, that justice among nations might prevail and that mankind might enjoy freedom and inherit peace." --Quote on Cemetery Chapel.
July 14, 2011
Back to Paris after two days in Normandy, visiting all of the D-Day beaches. Incredibly humbling. Even went into underground bunkers used by German soldiers...the enormity of it all is amazing.
July 15, 2011
Chris and Jeff flew home but us Mudd girls are continuing our European vacation in Nieuwpoort, Belgium, compliments of our wonderful neighbors Inge Huyghebaert and Robert Vermeer. Dutch hospitality in a lovely seaside home--we're loving it!
July 17, 2011
My idea of Heaven: Belgian sugar waffles from Liege, on our last day in beautiful Belgium.
July 19, 2011
There's no place like home.....even if the entire kitchen and den have been ripped apart by contractors, we don't have a washer or dryer, and face masks are needed for the dust--it's still home! :)
July 20, 2011
Facing down the 3-mile track at Memorial Park--day one of trying to undo damage caused by French and Belgium bread, cheese and wine. Oy!
July 21, 2011
Today's e-mail spam spectacular starts with: "Hello My Dear. Though this letter may come to you as a surprise, since you don’t know me personally before, but please kindly open your mind to help me and treat me like your own blood relation." Uh, sure. DELETE! July 22, 2011
Mudd gang is heading out to Brenda Anglin Moore 's Tiki Island home for a fun 'n sun weekend with her family and Sheryl Reynaud 's. Weeee!
July 23, 2011
Mine. (Photo of my big, bodacious diamond ring. Got 27 "likes" and about 30 comments. I guess I'm not the only materialistic person around.)
July 25, 2011
Praying for dear friend Ann Cuneio Earnest, who is anxious about starting chemotherapy today to beat ovarian cancer. Asking if praying friends might join me.
July 25, 2011
Thank God for nice nurses with lollipops. (Photo of Mackenzie with bandaids on face, sucking a lollipop. TSC sucks.)
July 26, 2011
Pretty stressful morning. Is it bad that I'm looking forward to the nitrous oxide I'll be getting at the dentist's office this afternoon?
July 26, 2011
Photo just sent via text from K Mudd, who has found a paying gig "dog sitting" the neighbor's pooch. (Translation: Neighbor is being nice and allowing K to watch her dog for a few bucks, per K's earnest, multiple requests.) So now our house is overrun by contractors, kids, friends of kids, a sitter, three of our own canines, two cats, a bird--and now, Shadow the dog. It's for the best that I'm downtown right now.
July 27, 2011
Just finished book club pick "Hotel On the Corner of Bitter and Sweet," by Jamie Ford; historical fiction about the internment of American Japanese citizens during WWII. So-so writing, but a great story.
July 28, 2011
Natural Science Museum with Juliette's HS Engineering group today; Katy Perry concert with Karenna and friends tonight. One extreme to the other!
July 29, 2011
California Gurls!!! Katy has us dancing!!! Fantabulous concert!
July 30, 2011
I'm ready to work out now!
July 31 (Photo of cutie-pie pooch Rochelle on mini trampoline)
Signed up for women's boot camp fitness training; first class is tomorrow at 5:30 a.m. That should give me enough time to digest the Mexican food and margaritas I just consumed.
August 1, 2011
Working out at Memorial Park and just saw a group of people run by carrying a wooden plank as part of their exercise routine. Weirdos.
August 3, 2011
Decisions, decisions.
August 5, 2011
Embarking upon week three of co-existing in the dining and living rooms while contractors work on the kitchen and den. Mudds on top of Mudds--it's not pretty.
August 7, 2011
Came face to face with a rabbit after "scaling" over (more like falling over) a wall in pitch blackness during today's 5:30 a.m. boot camp. We both looked at each other like, "Don't you have something better to do right now?" Indeed.
August 8, 2011
Reminded recently that mean girls exist at EVERY stage of life. Time to ramp up the self respect and do some house cleaning.
August 11, 2011
"Mr. Smith Goes To Washington" is playing on TCM. Love Jimmy Stewart! I wonder what idealist Jefferson Smith would say about our political climate today...
August 13, 2011
My baby sounds like an angel, thanks to wonderful voice coach @Annette Pappas, and God. (Video clip of Karenna singing.)
August 15, 2011
I'm reposting this [A Silent Love] in honor of our Mackenzie Joy, who turns 19 today. If someone had told me all those years ago that our child would have special needs, I'd have gone running. Now, I can fully understand what a privilege it is (and, dare I say, never dull or boring), to be her mom. Happy birthday, sweetheart! (This one got 64 "likes." So glad I could touch people with Mackenzie's story!)
August 16, 2011
Have decided to remove myself from the interview process of a major downtown firm where I was the primary candidate. Agonizing decision for a career lover like me, but consulting is the best thing for this season of my life. Onward and upward! (Anyone need a good PR/Marketing consultant?) :)
August 18, 2011
I cleared my calendar tomorrow to be there for the kids on their first day of school; I was especially excited about taking Juliette to her first day of high school. Well, she just declared that she will be driven to school tomorrow a.m. by her best friend's mother because she wants to be with her friends. A sobering reminder that I have now entered the thankless dimension of life otherwise known as "raising a teenager."
August 22, 2011
Thanks to AMA Houston members Nicole Tarner (graphic designer and marketer extraordinaire) and Kerry Fellers (data compiler and project manager extraordinaire), as well as some other wonderful AMA Houston folks, we are nearing the final stretch of a big, huge, beast of a marketing association project. Hang in there, ladies--champagne will be uncorked soon!
August 24, 2011
Rain, glorious rain! (After a summer of drought)
August 25, 2011
I was a little embarrassed last night when I posted birthday greetings on the FB page of Tracye Ford Sellers, a dear friend lost to cancer in 2009. But upon checking her page today, I see I have been joined by scores of others. Such was the character, joyful spirit and courage of one woman; someone I hope I can emulate in my own life. Miss you, friend.
August 25, 2011
I am LOVING our new red leather family room furniture. Red is my color, baby, red is my color!
August 27, 2011
H-Town is 175 years old today! Happy birthday to the city I moved to in 1988 for a "one year" career assignment--before meeting my husband, getting married, and having our girls here. Yeeehaw! (But really...the 109 degree temps and fire ants. What's up with that?)
August 28, 2011
Standing on my high heels at Apple's Genius Bar for what seems like an eternity. Must remind K tonight that she CANNOT cannon ball into the backyard pool with her phone in her pocket!
August 29, 2011
Nancy Grace on Dancing With the Stars. I guess crazier things have happened.
August 30, 2011
New, black business dress: Check. Pearls: Check. Red heels: Check. Red leather purse: Check. Unlock and get into car parked outside due to house renovations: Check. Arrive at business lunch soaked with sweat staining front and back of dress, flat hair and melting makeup, compliments of Houston's 114 degree heat: Oh so classy.
August 31, 2011
Husband asked me numerous times to post a photo of our 13 year old gas cooktop on my FB page to see if anyone wanted it, but I gave it away instead. Gimme a break, I'm NOT eBay! (Although I'm eyeballing a few unused lipsticks that could go to the highest bidder...hmm.)
September 2, 2011
Houston friends: Houston Family Magazine has just published Mackenzie's article, "A Silent Love." Weee! Please, if you see any copies around town, pick one up for me. I don't have any yet. Thanks!
September 3, 2011
Per Mackenzie's request, we bought a second parakeet, named Rio, to give her other parakeet, Nicky, a friend. So far, Rio and Nicky are pecking the living daylights out of each other. Meanwhile, Rochelle the dog is barking at the fake ceramic cat we placed near the bird cage while Sasha, the REAL cat, looks on. A maniacal Muddy zoo.
September 7, 2011
Praying for those in Texas affected by the wildfires, as well as the firefighters and other emergency responders who are protecting them.
September 8, 2011
Mackenzie clipped her own fingernails today-- the first time in her 19 years of life. Bravo, Mackenzie!
September 10, 2011
Clip: "First responders are not invited to the 9/11 National Memorial for the upcoming 10th anniversary ceremony, in what many people are calling a slap in the face to those who risked their lives to save others from the World Trade Center and the Pentagon."
September 10, 2011
Juliette is showing her Westside High PRIDE! (Cutest photo...)
September 10, 2011
Still heartbroken, 10 years later.
September 11, 2011
Who gets to say they're going to lunch today with the person who changed their life? I do! Can't wait to see Dr. Hope Northrup, tuberous sclerosis complex expert and internationally renowned geneticist, joined by Jackie Callies of the Memorial Hermann Foundation. Puts a smile on my face just thinking about it. :)
September 13, 2011
Running from classroom to classroom at high school "day in the life" open house. Weee!
(Westside High School)
September 15, 2011
Big, fat, weepy hugs to two of the most incredible people I know: Sheryl Reynaud and Brenda Anglin Moore, who led Troop 12025 with limitless dedication for over a decade. Although the group must come to an end due to busy schedules, rest assured you have greatly impacted the lives of Juliette Mudd, Michelle Moore, Danielle Reynaud and so many others. We love you!
September 15, 2011
76 degrees in Houston this morning. Heavenly! Now if we could just get some rain...
September 16, 2011
Date night! About to see "Contagion"...oh so romantic.
(Studio Movie Grill CityCentre)
September 18, 2011
"I learned this by watching 'Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs' " - said Juliette, while using a fork earlier today to make pretty marks around her apple pie. Hmmph! I bet that Disney chick wouldn't throw pool parties for 50 teens, dance on tables at Halloween parties or wear blue wigs to Katy Perry concerts. Take THAT, you pale-faced, over-rouged doofus of a cartoon character...and your seven weird little male friends, too.
September 19, 2011
My beloved SUV with 90,000 miles has to undergo an expensive nip and tuck today. First the Volvo....then me! (Or will a little extra wax do...for us both?!)
September 21, 2011
I married the love of my life, Chris Mudd, 21 years ago today. Happy Anniversary, hon!
September 22, 2011 (54 "likes." Deserved!)
Just snuggled into bed at Camp Cho-Yeh hotel room, bone tired after all day Leadership Houston business retreat, and the smoke alarm has just started beeping because it needs a battery change. Pillow over my head! (No phones in these rooms, or front desk people. Argh!)
September 24, 2011
Facebook apparently believes the only person I want to receive news updates from is Lady GaGa. Yes, I did "like" her FB page, but there's only so much GaGa a person can take. Fortunately, FB has selected Chris, too. So there you have it: My husband and Lady GaGa. All the news that's fit to print!
September 25, 2011
While dragging myself along the 3-mile track in nearly 90 degree heat, an elderly Indian lady jogged right by me, wearing a pretti sari (sp?) and carrying a sun umbrella. Call me inspired!
(Memorial Park)
September 26,
Just watched the finale of The Big C while packing for the airport. What an inspiring, funny, incredibly moving show. Love that Laura Linney!
September 27, 2011
Overlooking Lake Monono after a great day at client site. (Sardine, in Madison, WI)
September 29, 2011
Walked in the door from a business trip a few minutes ago, excited to see the kids since they have the day off. No one looked up, and Juliette isn't even here. On the other hand, the dogs jumped all over me, the cats came out from their hiding places and rubbed against my legs, and even the parakeets started chirping. This may be why I've turned into the crazy pet lady--unconditional love!
September 29, 2011
Honey just left for Europe--again. :(
September 30, 2011
I cannot stop thinking about the passing of Esther Hobbs. Please pray for her family, especially her mentally challenged adult sister, Darla, to whom she devoted her life.
(Link to article:Esther Hobbs, a well-known Houston public relations executive and founder of a school for handicapped children, was found dead on Thursday.)
October 1, 2011
On a more upbeat note than my previous post, KUDOS, HUGS AND BIGGER HUGS to the thousands of people who walked Houston's Komen Houston Race for the Cure® this morning. May we find a cure for breast cancer in our lifetime!
October 1, 2011
Juliette and little sis Karenna at the "Dance with Pride" game (photo exhibiting supreme cuteness)
October 2, 2011
Saturday night baking: Halloween cupcakes -- boo!
October 2, 2011
No work, too much work. No work, too much work. The life of a consultant!
October 4, 2011
The tuberous sclerosis community lost a true hero today. You will always hold a place in our hearts, Dr. Mausner.
(Link to post: Dr. Mark Mausner, a reknowned plastic surgeon who worked with hundreds of people with TSC from around the world, passed away the morning of Tuesday, October 4, 2011. As one former TS Alliance board chair wrote, "Dr. Mausner was an amazing man who opened his heart to so many people.")
October 4, 2011
Heading off to book club dinner. For discussion tonight: "Sunflowers," about Vincent van Gogh. Spoiler alert: He cuts off his ear! (Sorry, I couldn't help myself.)
October 6, 2011
Although this is not a surprise, it is surely a loss. One of the greatest inventors in history.
(Link to post: Steve Jobs Died 'Peacefully,' Family Says The family of former Apple chief executive Steve Jobs said that he died "peacefully" on Wednesday, surrounded by his family. A memorial Web site will be posted.)
October 6, 2011
iSad.
October 6, 2011
A worried, stressed out man with sweat trickling down his forehead just ran up to our security line and begged to go to the front since his flight leaves in 20 minutes. I said "Sure," and then the guy in front of me bit my head off and yelled to the sweaty man "We're ALL LATE!!" Speak for yourself, oh tightly wound one. It's amazing we don't have daily uprisings at airports.
October 7, 2011
"Do we have to? Why don't you just look at it on your iPad and be done with it?" --Husband's response when I said I wanted to head out to see the St. Louis Arch. (He wants to stay at the hotel and watch the Texas game.)
October 8, 2011
Had to deplane itty-bitty aircraft in torrential rain. Positioned now-soaked torso over carry-on bag holding MacBook Pro, iPhone and iPad, not caring if I had to fall down itty-bitty stairs in the process. Husband rolled his eyes, but alas, he's a PC/Blackberry user.
October 9, 2011
Curses! It's NOT "Me and Susie," it's "Susie and me," or "Susie and I," depending upon the situation. And it's not "I'm going to not do that," it's "I'm not going to do that!" I correct the kids, but everyone seems to be speaking this way these days. Sister Mary Joseph, my elementary school English teacher, is probably rolling in her grave.
October 10, 2011
Going to three Halloween parties this year, and I haven't given a second of thought to my costume. Any ideas?
October 11, 2011 (Decision: Social Butterfly!)
Just got back from the airport, and the house is crawling with teens (early dismissal today) playing loud music of unknown origin while I'm writing a PR proposal. Muddy mania once again!
October 12, 2011
Juliette and friends LOVE early dismissal day!
October 12, 2011
I personally blame Angela Scott Sheets and Barbara Beeman Cobb for making me lose sleep last night! If they had not recommended the riveting, thought-provoking, incredibly moving page-turner "Sarah's Key," I could have been nestled in my bed nice and early. But alas, I couldn't stop reading until the book was finished--1 a.m.-- and then laid there, staring at the ceiling, until who knows when. I'll get you for this, ladies!
October 13, 2011
Mackenzie was begging to carve pumpkins, so Chris Mudd, otherwise known as cool dad, just put her in his car and off they went to Kroger to buy a few. They'll be carving well into the night. Yes, I'm married to good guy.
October 14, 2011
Chaperone at 6th Grade Dance. I got to hold the limbo stick!
(Westbriar middle school)
October 15, 2011
"Why don't you stand there and pretend to be a big mango?" says husband, as I wander through the kitchen attempting to catch fruit flies with a baggie. (Must do this for exterminator to determine origin of annoying, buzzing insects, and then trace the source. Mackenzie has taken to dining in the back yard, to get away from indoor flies. Oh, the irony!)
October 15, 2011
Getting pedicures with Mackenzie. Me, dark red. Mackenzie, Sponge Bob yellow.
(Tulipo Nails and Spa)
October 15, 2011
How cool is it that Sandie Mullins-Meyers and Charlie Moger met and fell in love after tremendous personal hardship? How much cooler is it that they're getting married today and combining their big crew to form the Moger Bunch?! Blessings, friends. We're thrilled for you!
October 16, 2011
And there you have it. The end.
For now...
Thursday, June 9, 2011
Things Aren't Always As They Seem
I should have known better. There I sat, on a sunny day in May, watching the high school seniors climb the steps to the chancel area (in some churches, called an altar), to be presented to the congregation as we applauded. Each of these fresh-faced young adults looked out at us, awkward but happy in spite of themselves. Visions of UT, A&M, and various Ivy League institutions danced in their heads. Their lives before them, they had every reason to bask in our adulation. I looked over at Mackenzie, also a high school senior--at least age-wise-- hunched over a coloring book. Their future would not be her future.
The boy in the middle was the tallest, biggest one of all. One would think "football scholarship" when laying eyes on him. Ahhh, Andy. I had known Andy since birth. His parents, and Chris and I, took the same Lamaze class 19 years ago, and his mother, Sarah, and I immediately gravitated toward each other. She was a vice president of sales for a major corporation and I was in corporate communications for another. We understood each other; the anticipation of having our first children, our shared faith in God, and our desire to maintain careers despite the occasional critical input of others, helped create a bond between us.
We became fast friends and shared our parenting experiences over the years. Andy grew leaps and bounds while Mackenzie lagged cognitively. Her diagnosis of tuberous sclerosis complex came at age one, and while many people were there for us at first, Sarah stayed...to listen, counsel and give me the permission to believe in myself when I did not. She also understood the career thing, but we supported each other in later years when we both chose to step back a bit--me, from the corporate world to my own business; her, from a 24/7 executive position to the head of a Christian foundation.
We had lost touch in the years leading up to that day in May, not for any reason other than the craziness of everyday life. So, when I saw Andy take the stage, it all rushed back to me. As if hit broadside, memories and feelings I pushed down inside myself so many years ago
came rushing back: The joyful anticipation of my very first baby, the shared smiles between Sarah and I during our babies' early months, the confusion of watching Mackenzie's first seizure, the heartbreak of her diagnosis, the mixed blessings and richer life of parenting a special
needs child....then, sitting there, an older, uglier feeling I rarely experience anymore: green-eyed envy. An uncontrollable swelling of it as I watched Andy take those steps to the front of the church, to the chancel area, to his future. Mackenzie should be up there, my heart cried out. She should have those opportunities. She did nothing to deserve what life has given her. It sucks, TSC sucks, the whole thing sucks.
The feeling left as quickly as it came, buried by the more reasonable and charitable thoughts of how she is a happy person, how we are
fortunate to have other healthy children, how lucky I am to be married to a man who is dedicated to all of us and how much fun and joy we have in our home. But deep, deep down, I could still hear it: this sucks.
That was a month ago. Last night, I learned from Sarah that she has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer.
I'm not certain of how to complete this post. What is my point here? On this, the day after my learning of Sarah's devastating diagnosis, my heart is heavy and my mind wanders to those many years between laughing at the eccentric Lamaze teacher to Andy taking those steps at the church, to last night. Maybe I want to record the age-old adage to "count your blessings." Maybe I need to remember that no matter what I think of others' lives, I will never truly understand the big picture...what goes on behind closed doors or which of life's scars have yet to make their presence known. Perhaps it makes sense to consider that no one's life is, or will ever be, perfect. Maybe I need to consider in my hectic, overloaded mind--aided and abetted by the growth and distractions of technology--to enjoy every day, without wasting any of our hours on petty, useless things. Maybe it's all these thoughts wrapped into one.
Maybe. But on this day, one thing is for certain: I wish Andy all good things for his future, including a mother who will live to see her grandchildren. This I know, from the bottom of my heart.
The boy in the middle was the tallest, biggest one of all. One would think "football scholarship" when laying eyes on him. Ahhh, Andy. I had known Andy since birth. His parents, and Chris and I, took the same Lamaze class 19 years ago, and his mother, Sarah, and I immediately gravitated toward each other. She was a vice president of sales for a major corporation and I was in corporate communications for another. We understood each other; the anticipation of having our first children, our shared faith in God, and our desire to maintain careers despite the occasional critical input of others, helped create a bond between us.
We became fast friends and shared our parenting experiences over the years. Andy grew leaps and bounds while Mackenzie lagged cognitively. Her diagnosis of tuberous sclerosis complex came at age one, and while many people were there for us at first, Sarah stayed...to listen, counsel and give me the permission to believe in myself when I did not. She also understood the career thing, but we supported each other in later years when we both chose to step back a bit--me, from the corporate world to my own business; her, from a 24/7 executive position to the head of a Christian foundation.
We had lost touch in the years leading up to that day in May, not for any reason other than the craziness of everyday life. So, when I saw Andy take the stage, it all rushed back to me. As if hit broadside, memories and feelings I pushed down inside myself so many years ago
came rushing back: The joyful anticipation of my very first baby, the shared smiles between Sarah and I during our babies' early months, the confusion of watching Mackenzie's first seizure, the heartbreak of her diagnosis, the mixed blessings and richer life of parenting a special
needs child....then, sitting there, an older, uglier feeling I rarely experience anymore: green-eyed envy. An uncontrollable swelling of it as I watched Andy take those steps to the front of the church, to the chancel area, to his future. Mackenzie should be up there, my heart cried out. She should have those opportunities. She did nothing to deserve what life has given her. It sucks, TSC sucks, the whole thing sucks.
The feeling left as quickly as it came, buried by the more reasonable and charitable thoughts of how she is a happy person, how we are
fortunate to have other healthy children, how lucky I am to be married to a man who is dedicated to all of us and how much fun and joy we have in our home. But deep, deep down, I could still hear it: this sucks.
That was a month ago. Last night, I learned from Sarah that she has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer.
I'm not certain of how to complete this post. What is my point here? On this, the day after my learning of Sarah's devastating diagnosis, my heart is heavy and my mind wanders to those many years between laughing at the eccentric Lamaze teacher to Andy taking those steps at the church, to last night. Maybe I want to record the age-old adage to "count your blessings." Maybe I need to remember that no matter what I think of others' lives, I will never truly understand the big picture...what goes on behind closed doors or which of life's scars have yet to make their presence known. Perhaps it makes sense to consider that no one's life is, or will ever be, perfect. Maybe I need to consider in my hectic, overloaded mind--aided and abetted by the growth and distractions of technology--to enjoy every day, without wasting any of our hours on petty, useless things. Maybe it's all these thoughts wrapped into one.
Maybe. But on this day, one thing is for certain: I wish Andy all good things for his future, including a mother who will live to see her grandchildren. This I know, from the bottom of my heart.
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Sisters!
It's been a while since I've posted anything...primarily because I feel compelled to offer thought-provoking, sweeping essays every time I hit the keyboard. This time I'm going with a video. Roughly edited and simply processed, but it says it all. Muddy madness. :)
Friday, January 7, 2011
Triple the Joy!
(Left: Juliette and Mom at Houston performance of Wicked, July 2010)I burst into the laundry room, searching for her. I could swear I saw her run in there, but no such luck. "I'm up here, Mom," whispered the young teen's voice from above. I lifted my eyes and indeed there she was, smiling big and wide, metal braces catching light from the family room lamp. Like a monkey, she had climbed to the top of the refrigerator for sanctuary from her sister, Mackenzie. The simple act of Juliette gathering her hair into a pony tail sent Mackenzie, our autistic daughter, into a temporarily aggressive tailspin, but that's another Muddy story for another Muddy day.
Up until that moment I was anxious, checking each room in the house. Where did she go? Is she safe? I momentarily experienced--yet again--the array of emotions associated with special needs parenting, much like a Peacock expands its huge array of feathers: One for love, one for anger, one for fear, one for confusion, one for joy, one for anxiety, one for sympathy, one for overwhelming gratitude and another for if I catch her I'm gonna kick her ass. Yes, I do have those moments, and if other special needs parents don't ever think that way, well, they're better people than me.
So there she was--my poor girl!--hunched next to the two liter jugs of Diet Coke and boxes of margarita mix, legs and arms wrapped up like a pretzel.
It brought me back to about 14 years and six months ago, when I sat next to my husband in a geneticist's office, weeping and blowing my nose into a tissue. "My poor girl! How can this be possible?"
"Well, the amnio shows an additional chromosome," said the geneticist. "Sometimes these things happen."
But could it happen twice? To us? Having one child with tuberous sclerosis complex (TSC) put the fear of God in me regarding having more children. Not so for my husband, whose easygoing and optimistic nature allowed him to easily accept every word of literature and counsel that suggested our chances of having another TSC child were only 1% out of 100.
Me, on the other hand? Not so much. We both wanted more children, which is unusual with TSC families, but I've established in previous posts that us Mudds are anything but usual. We underwent MRIs and were relieved to learn we didn't have the tell-tale tumors, or "tubers," associated with TSC. This put us in the two-thirds "spontaneous mutation" category regarding Mackenzie--wish they could call it something else, like "spontaneous surprise"--clearing us for more children. Not so fast, I said, noting the lack of a DNA test to be extra-doubly-absolutely sure.
SOOOOO I dragged Chris to adoption agencies. First, an agency for domestic babies, the waiting list for which was long and the process longer. Next, an agency for international babies, including little Chinese girls, but at the time, they were not adopting babies out to families who already had children. Finally, I checked into local Foster Care babies, until Mackenzie's neurologist pointed out the obvious: "You know, Mrs. Mudd, you want the guarantee of a healthy baby. There is no such guarantee." Chris glanced at him in a knowing manner, which came as no surprise. It seemed he had been humoring me with these visits, tests, and counseling sessions until I finally came to the conclusion he had all along: "Let's have our own child."
One month later I was pregnant. Three months later, the amnio results came back, and the voice of an unnamed nurse stated "Triple X" over the phone. I immediately lost my mind, assuming the worst of the worst. I looked it up:
Triple X: About 1 in 1,000 females has an extra X chromosome (4). They usually have no physical birth defects, experience normal puberty and are fertile. Affected girls usually have normal intelligence, though many have learning problems. Because these girls are healthy and have a normal appearance, their parents often don’t know they have a chromosomal abnormality.
Learning problems. Retardation? Mental retardation--again? NO! Fast forward to the nose-blowing session at the geneticists' office.
"The cells might have multiplied by mistake, and she's fine..." she said. "...or maybe not. We could do another amnio, but the cells may multiply in the same way." I managed a slight smile, all the while thinking "What kind of a stupid idea is that?! Do another test to get the same results? "Or," she whispered, "we can take fluid from the umbilical cord, which can cause a miscarriage, but we'd know for sure then." I blinked. Miscarry and then find out she was fine all along? Just lovely. "How bad are the learning difficulties?"I asked. She answered, "Possibly some tutoring in math, maybe reading."
"This isn't TSC," I clarified. "No, it's not," she confirmed. Chris and I looked at each other. He squeezed my hand." We're talking math tutoring?" She nodded. I sat back and considered the ridiculous nature of this entire discussion. We had tuberous sclerosis hanging out there like a 200 pound gorilla, and here we were sitting in a fluorescent-lit conference room making a big whoop over math tutoring. I considered for a moment that I probably have Triple X myself, given my lifelong prickly relationship with math.
Then I asked, somewhat incredulously, "Does anyone ever terminate a pregnancy due to Triple X? I mean really--math tutoring?" She winced..."A doctor and his wife recently did. They wanted a guaranteed healthy baby." Ahhh, little grasshopper doctor and wife, I thought: There are no guarantees.
"We're keeping the baby and we won't have further testing," we said. The geneticist smiled. When our girl came into the world on December 4, 1996, the doctors wanted to take blood from her umbilical cord just to be sure there was no Triple X. Chris was against it; he didn't want her to come into the world with a label. I agreed.
Of course, I watched her like a hawk over her early months and years, waiting for Triple X to rear its head, or far worse, for TSC to come and stay. What would the signs be? Before long, I counted them:
- Immense beauty
- Walked on time
- Talked on time--uh, a bit too much
- Showed an affinity for math
- Devoured books
- Extremely social
- "Labeled" as gifted and talented
- Ambidextrous; helps when hiding on top of a refrigerator
- Easygoing (father's genes)
Houston, we have a healthy child! What came with the relief was a new road, a new path...one where life wasn't only about the honor of loving and caring for a child in special ed classes and hospitals, but regular classrooms and parties as well. While one experience has changed me forever, so has the other. Like a Peacock with all those feathers, the array of emotions is colorful, riveting and sometimes overwhelming...but in the end, so beautiful. Of course, Juliette does have her handicaps. These are the signs:
- Total slob; can't see bedroom floor
- Borrows my things without asking
- Sucks the disposable income out our ears
- Thinks she's smarter than me
- Scatter-brained (father's genes)
I think I can live with this, though.
While some may think this post has an anti-abortion sentiment, that is not my message. It's simply about surprises in life--both good and bad--intertwining to create a journey that is richer than anything I could ever have imagined.
As I looked up to the top of the refrigerator that day, I laughed along with my daughter. Not only is she a healthy kid, she is compassionate toward her older sister, realizing that a positive attitude is everything, even if you have to occasionally run for your life.
So to Juliette, I offer this belated birthday post: Thank you for entering my world, sweet child, and changing it forever.
Next time you're on top of the fridge, though, please give it a dusting.
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